The Modern Female

I am a girl from Austria and this is my blog about how to be a modern girl and the importance of female obedience to male authority. I believe in the good in people, the power of traditional genderoles, anti-feminism/pro-femininity, and that happiness is a choice.

Ask #2

How do you please your man? struggle to please him like other girls could i look best and take super well care of my body but is there some trick or thing i could do to make him like me more

The secret trick to any Man's heart is through his porn :) Porn is pure male fantasy without any feminist distortion.

Find out what he masturbates to and be that. Sneak into his computer and find his porn folder. Or his porn bookmarks. Or whatever. All Men look at porn, you just gotta find his "stash". And then look through it. Take your time. See if you can find a common theme among it.

And then be that. Reenact what the girls do in his porn. Dress like the girls do. Say the things the girls do. Of course, that is easier said than done, but pick a few videos you really like and study them. You don't have to like everything he likes, it is perfectly fine to steer him away from certain things and more towards others.

You can try to encourage him to watch porn with you. Maybe start with suggesting some porn you know he likes and then go from there. Don't tell him you know he likes this, pretend to be genuine into it yourself. And ask about why he likes certain things, but be subtle. Don't say "what do you like about her?" always phrase it like "don't her stockings look soooo hot?" to find out what he likes. It shouldn't feel like an interrogation. And always react positively to whatever kink or fetish he has. Never kink-shame. Even if it is not your cup of tea. You don't have to do it, but make him feel good about opening up. "Yes that is hot, but i like this more" if perfectly fine to steer him away from things you don't like.

Use his porn as a guide to his cock :)

 You can always send me asks on my Social Media Accounts :)

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House Dress

House Dress - do you have one? This is a pet peeve of mine. So many girls don't know about House Dresses and therefore don't even own one.

We can't always dress the way we want. We can't always wear the sexiest dresses or the shortest skirts. We try to dress nicely regardless, but certain styles of clothing are just not ready to be worn in public. But at home, we don't have strangers watching and judging us. We can be as free as we want (or our Sir permits) to be.

This is where the House Dress comes in. When you come home from work, don't just kick off your heels and slump down on the couch. Take this opportunity to wear something special. Put on something really sexy, something too extravagant or too slutty to wear it in public. At home, you can be as daring as you want (or your Sir requires). Freshen up your Makeup and style yourself. Wear something appropriate at home. Wear a nice House Dress. And don't forget your House Shoes with it.

It does not always have to be a dress, it can be some lingerie as well. What matters is to change once you get home. Housedresses are super fun and it's also a good way to get comfortable wearing more revealing clothes. You can even experiment a lot more with fashion at home. How short can your skirts go? How tight can your dresses go? Housedresses are fun, even if they take that little extra effort. Always changing when coming home, reapplying the makeup, redoing the hair,... But they are soooo worth it! Put something nice on, something that maybe you are not yet comfortable wearing in public. You can train yourself to love wearing these clothes and you will be able to wear them outside much easier. This works incredibly well for getting used to higher Heels as well.

And also, if you have male guests, they will really appreciate your outfit!

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Quote #1

Some German here (Marlene Dietrich, Germany's best export until Heidi Klum), but in simple English it translates to

If you want to have beautiful legs, you have to bask them in male gazes or If you want to have beautiful legs, you have to let men massage them with their stares.

It might get a bit philosophical but it means that to have a certain feature (the legs here) and to be proud about it, you gotta show it off. You gotta soak in the stares, the gazes, the desires of Men. Saying you have a cute butt is Ok, but to really make it an outstanding feature, you have to bask your butt in male gazes.

This male lust that you ignite feeds you the necessary confidence you need to epitomize it. We girls are like vampires - we need the compliments (especially the non-verbal ones like stares) and we feed off them and they give us the conviction that we are sexy. It is one thing to tell yourself that, but a whole other world when you see Men react to yourself.

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girl ordering #1

Click here if you don't know what girl ordering is!

my order: E, A, F, B, D, C

E is the hottest for me. She got the best tits (A is very close) and her face is cute (A is very close again), but she appears thinner than A, and that made her win. Even though i prefer blondes, F gets 3rd place for the heels and smile. B, D and C have mediocre tits but B has a very cute face. And lastly, while C has the better tits, D has the better hair, so it's super close between those 2.

Please add your own ordering and participate here on google forms!

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Sluts make the world a happier place!

Sluts are fun, sluts make Men happy. Sluts are nice to look at, sluts are playful and of course, sluts are very good to fuck. It really is no wonder that Men just love sluts. You don't even have the be the biggest slut to make our world a happier place, small things can come a long way. The boy scouts, for example, say, if you do just one good deed every day, and it doesn't even have to be a big one, you are actively improving this world. But we girls can do so much more, why not do a Slut Deed a day instead?

So my Owner and i, we thought about some things everyone can do. Of course, don't do all things at the same time, take breaks. The most important thing about being a good slut is to have fun. You have to enjoy yourself. Only if you enjoy yourself, Men can enjoy you. No one wants a sad slut. Sluts are supposed to be happy and playful.

Please, dear girls, take this list as suggestions on what you can do. Feel free to improve upon this or just send me your own suggestion. Keep it realistic and fun. This should not be fantasy list, this should be things everyone can do. You don't have to be a Sasha Grey to be a good slut, just keep in mind the 2 things that define a slut: an insatiable hunger for fucking and all things sexy, and submissiveness towards Men. So take small steps. Small improvement is perfectly fine. What matters is constant improvement, not the size of the steps you take.

At public:

  • drive topless (or bottomless) in your car
  • overdress for a casual event (for example wear a sexy tight minidress with immaculate makeup to a cinema evening with friends)
  • wear too high heels to an event (for example after hours drinking with your colleagues)
  • watch porn on your phone while riding on public transport (or any other public activity)
  • instead of music, listen to sex/porn sounds on your phone (especially in public)
  • lick/suck on a lollipop/ice cream cone in a sexual manner in public
  • write slut/fuckdoll/cock socket/... on your ankle/lower foot and go out without covering it up (somewhere where it is very difficult to see, but still technically visible)
  • wear a butt plug in public (bonus points if its while going out with friends)
  • wear nipple clamps in public (you can use a loose sweater)
  • when going shopping, give your Man a blowjob in a dressing room (or any other semi-public place, works awesome in restaurant toilets too)
  • masturbate in a public restroom (or at your friends house or work)
  • fondle your own tits in public (over your top, but maybe pinch your nipples)
  • wear a very short skirt without panties
  • wear tight pants/shorts with a cameltoe
  • remove your underwear in public
  • "forget" your wet panties in a public place
  • purposefully upskirt someone in public (it's OK to wear panties, or you can upskirt no one - just spread your legs while no one is looking)
  • purposefully give a someone a perfect view of your cleavage by "accidentally" bending over in their face
  • wear stockings under a short skirt with the stocking-top showing
  • carry a sex toy in your bag and always leave it open
  • in a sex shop, ask for and buy the largest dildo they have
  • in a pet shop try on some dog collars
  • ask someone for obvious direction (like for the street you are currently on) and then apologize by saying something along the lines "oh sorry, i am such a stupid slut".

At home:
  • wear nothing but high heels and lingerie the whole day at home (or any other super sexy stuff)
  • cook a meal in nothing but high heels and an apron
  • wear nipple clamps/ben wa balls the whole day
  • take a selfie in sexy lingerie (do your make up, go all out, just for this one photo)
  • take a selfie with cum in your mouth/on your face
  • masturbate (and try to cum) without touching your clit or inserting something into your pussy
  • suck a dildo in front of a mirror without breaking eye contact with yourself
  • dress up and style yourself like a porn star, then masturbate to your own reflection
  • take a hand mirror and really study your pussy

Dear girls, please use this list as a guide to work on your sluttiness. Do one slut deed a week, or more often, but don't push yourself too hard. Remember that being a good slut is about having fun and entertaining Men :)

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Sex Matters

No matter what you do or become in life, first and foremost, be a good fuck. It is a very good thing to have aspirations in life, it is important to have goals and dreams, but the basis to achieve all this is, simply put, to be a good fuck.

Men get into relationships to get sex and we girls give sex to get relationships. This is of course very much simplified, but at its core, this is our dynamic in a relationship. Men don't crave the emotional bond we do. They are willing to give us what we need when they get what they need. Relationships are symbioses. So every girl knows that in a relationship letting the Man fuck her is her duty. Men want it way more often than we do. On the other hand, we do want to go out dancing and dining and even cuddling in bed much more often than they want to. So it is a give and take.

But it is just not enough to let your Man fuck you. This is the basis, this is the first step. To really shine in a relationship you gotta be a good fuck, not just any old fuck. Kinda like we remember the romantic gestures, the special presents, and the compliments Men give us, Men remember the girls that were good fucks.

Beauty is what sparks a Man's interest. And manners, obedience, and submission are what keeps them from running away. Remember a nagging, pushy girl just scares off Men left and right. But what really makes Men stay is being a good fuck. Being a goddess in bed, being a nasty dirty whore for them.

Luckily Men are simple beings and they gave us an instruction manual on what we need to do: Porn. Porn is simple male fantasy, without any feminists or social justice worker influence. Pure fantasy. Pure male dreams. So go on pornhub, xhamster, xvideos or whatever you like and watch. Watch the "hottest", "most viewed" or "popular" categories. See what Men like. Study the girls. Watch what they wear, what they say, how they moan. Be like those girls. Act like them. Turn into them.

There are so many things, so many fetishes, so many sex positions, and whatnot, you will definitely find things you are into. Sex can be fun for us girls too, the most important thing is to be free and do whatever you (or your Sir) want. If you give him amazing sex, he will keep you forever. i promise.

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Ask #1

Question from my bdsmlr: You often say male pleasure should come first. But you also want girls to adopt the lifestyle you envision. My question is: why would girls want to partake in a lifestyle that puts their pleasure second? (PS: I'm not a girl. Just curious as to what's enjoyable to a female whose sex life is primarily for her man to get off.)

Yes, male pleasure is paramount. This does however not mean that a girl's pleasure is unimportant, it just ranks 2nd, directly behind male pleasure.

In a lot of areas, it is the polite or the right thing to do to have your spouse or a friend come first. As a host at a party, you are supposed to look after the guests, as a parent you are supposed to put your kids first, as a ship captain you are supposed to look after everyone leaving the ship before you in an emergency. Lots of areas where it is just what is expected: selfishness is often frowned upon. So putting your Men's pleasure first is nothing unreasonable or never heard of the concept.

Also, girls LOVE to nurture. We want our Man to have a good time. But it goes deeper like that. A girl should want to be the most precious possession her Man owns. It comes down to traditional gender roles. The Man has to decide, he has to pick out the dates, plan them and pay for them. This is the Man's job. The girl's job is to be agreeable and pretty. This is of course very simplified now, but there are certain roles we gotta play. You gotta know your place, right?

Besides social norms, there is also the part of sex. Men want sex more often than we do. That is just basic biology. So, in general, it is pretty unpractical to make every sex about the girl, because she won't be in the mood for that. It is much easier and better to focus on the Man in these situations.

Also, the orgasm is a big part of it. Men cum fast. They get the pleasure from the orgasm and the build-up to it, while nice, is not what sex is all about for them. For us girls it's different. We can have AMAZING sex without cumming. Our orgasm can be super nice, but actual for us it is quality over quantity. While a Man can cum 3 quick times and always feel the same, we don't get the same enjoyment from 3 quick orgasms as we do from one really intense one.

And since it is about the intense ones with us girls, it is better to set them aside for special occasions. Edging helps to build them out and sex comes down to "advanced edging" if you want. So when the time is right, the Man can allow the female orgasms and it will be glorious. Believe me, this system produces a much higher quality of sex life for the girl :)

Of course, there are the greedy girls that always want to cum and do so. But during sex, if you are focused on your own orgasm, you don't pay 100% attention to your partner. And i for one, don't want to be THAT bitch. When my Owner is fucking me, i want him to enjoy it to the fullest. i want him to always come back to ME when he is horny. i want to show him how special i feel that he chose me. Sex is kind of like the reward he gets for being a good Man. And i want him to enjoy it as much as possible.

 You can always send me asks on my Social Media Accounts :)

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