This was not really an Ask Me Anything, but i collected a handful of questions on BDSMLR and Tumblr and answered them.
I read your blog posts and they are great. I wish there were more good girls like you to be role models for young girls :)You have repeatedly praised "being slut" and encouraged girls to be sluts. But being slut contradicts being submissive , which is one of the most important signs of femininity. Loyalty to a man is part of submissiveness.How can a slut be loyal?
That is an interesting question, thank you.
Being a slut is about sex positivity and being open to sexual advances from Men. This does not overrule any rules your Owner sets for you, of course. It is more of a way to attract Men, to be noticed, and to get the male approval we all so desire.
However, even when you are in a monogamous relationship, you can still be slutty. You don't have to fuck people to be a slut. Men are visual beings, and sluts are nice to look at. So it is a lot about being eye candy for Men. Flirting is also a fun activity.
But when your Owner wants you to hide your body, you do that instead. Some Men prefer to show off their trophies, they want their friends and enemies to be envious of them. They want to show their status, show what a beautiful girl they own. Others prefer to keep their girl to themselves.
But when you are single, being slutty can be a super way to attract Men. And to learn to be confident in your sexuality. Also, it never hurts to learn how to fuck right :) You only get good at something if you practice it. And don't forget to find out what you really like. The girl chooses her Owner. It's the only choice she has in life, but it is a very strong and important one. It's important to know what you want, what you like, and especially what you don't like, before submitting to a Sir fully.
Hey, there! What's up with women's involvement in politics? Here in America, over half the voters are female! Politics have always struck me as more of a male thing, because it often deals with very serious (and often boring) matters and societal conflicts. And so, while I don't think women must stay out of it entirely, it should remain a primarily male thing. Why do you think so many women want to be involved in politics and voting and all that?
Politics should be a male only activity, passive and active voting rights should be for Men only. That is my opinion and some people disagree, that is fine.
But the question is not about my opinion on voting rights but rather why girls participate so much. And the answer here is simple: because it is emotionally charged. Politics turn more and more into feeling-battles. Emotions reign supreme and facts get ignored more and more. So it is perfect for girls. We love emotionally charged drama. That is why we watch reality tv. Also, our party is doing the good things, to make the world better, and the other party is doing the bad things and making the world worse. So we are helping, and we girls like to help.
AOC is the perfect example here - sadly there is no AOC equivalent on the republican side, so we have to use just one democrat girl as an example. She is a sweet girl and wants to do good for the world. Her whole heart is in it, it's so easy to see. She just has not a single clue about what's going on in the world.
Regarding your CMNF post, I've always had that same "fetish". It's not really a fetish; it's just something I've always been into. I'm a firm believer that men in society ought to be on top of things, and so have a higher status than women, and the dress has to reflect that. And also because, contrary to men, women's physique and womanly comportment have a decorative value in society, and so dressing in a revealing/provocative/colorful/tight fashion just means you're being a good girl for societ
This refers to this post on my Tubmlr.
CMNF is really something that is way too underrated. It is just a fact that Men look better well dressed and girls look better undressed. Though i include sexy lingerie in the "nude" part. Nudity gets stale after a while, sexy lingerie can keep it fresh.
girls are loved because of their bodies, Men are loved because of their minds. That doesn't mean a sexy body on a Man is a bad thing, but generally speaking, Men impress girls with their mind, and girls impress Men with their bodies. Of course, to have a happy relationship everything else has to be compatible as well, but if no one notices you, it's hard to find your perfect match.
This isn't really a question, but I just want to note that I'm liking the positive development of twerking becoming more mainstream. Just 10 years ago, it wasn't all that common, and was mostly a black thing. Now, every Jane and Janet is shaking her booty for fun at least once a year; if not for a music video, than just for a plain video or randomly during a party. Positive development. It's a girly type of dancing for women to do, fun and sexy/teasing at the same time, and gets them attention.
That is very true. Maybe my blog post about First Times, fits here as well.
We have to improve constantly. While it was once enough to show some bare ankle to get men excited, today we need more. Men cannot go back sexually. Once they had a girl swallow their cum after a blowjob, they can't go back to spitting girls. At least not easily.
So yes, i love this sex positive movement. It is Ok to be desired, it is Ok to turn heads like that. Sadly society makes Men lack behind here a bit. Because girls can twerk but Men cannot ask girls to twerk and comment on it, for the most part. We need to make this less taboo. But the overall direction we are moving as a society is pretty great :)
If anyone wants to learn how to twerk correctly and not just shake your booty, refer to your friendly neighborhood stripper Nina Unrated.
So what was it that made you decide to become an ultra submissive woman? Was there one particular moment or was it more like something that built up over time?
i always wanted to rather be the perfect girlfriend than having the perfect boyfriend. That was probably the main driving factor behind my journey when it started.
But nowadays i have way more profound reasons. i believe D/s is the only real relationship dynamic that can work. You always need a leader and a follower. Even successful vanilla couples have that dynamic, except they trade the areas where someone is in charge. with my parents (they are as vanilla as it gets) my mum owned the kitchen and my dad owned the car. they had clear areas where they were in charge.
It doesn't work if both people try to lead or submit. You need a leader and a follower. That doesn't mean the leader does whatever he wants, it just means one makes the decision and the other provides the input.
This is the only way to not fight and not create resentment, because if you have to argue your point and fight to make your position known and understood, you will have to pick your battles and you will have to accept defeat.
In a d/s relationship, you won't be defeated because your POV is by design very important.
Does your owner have requirements about your edging, masturbating or cumming? If so, what are they and do you often have times following them?
i am not allowed to cum without permission and i have to do at least 5-15min soft edges in the morning after waking up and in the evening before going to bed. i am very sexual most of the time, so i do more edges and since i am very eager to do them, my Owner didn't set too strong rules. If i don't feel like it, i can skip them every now and then - but only because he knows that i am edging whenever i have free time anyway :D
You have such a great outlook! I'm curious, does the-modern-female think it is her pleasure to swallow or simply her duty?
i love cum. Except in my hair. Everywhere is fine, but preferably in my mouth <3
I really hate the word inferior. I'm male and I would be considered very misogynistic by the vanilla world, but I really do love women and I don't think they are inferior. I would like to hear your thoughts on the word inferior.
i dislike the word inferior as well. i don't subscribe to the superior/inferior way of thinking. i prefer the ying/yang style. That means that Men and girls complement each other. One can't be without the other, we just work flawlessly together: where one is weak, the other is strong.
The only way i can accept the word "superior" is in the sense of a chain of command. Men are my superiors, they are in charge. But that doesn't mean i am inferior, i just have a certain role to play: i receive commands while Men give commands. A follower is nothing without a leader, but a leader without a follower is equally nothing. We need each other. We complete each other. We just fulfill different roles, none is more or less important than the other - because our roles depend on each other.
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