I am a girl from Austria and this is my blog about how to be a modern girl and the importance of female obedience to male authority. I believe in the good in people, the power of traditional genderoles, anti-feminism/pro-femininity, and that happiness is a choice.
Cleavage is good, cleavage is fine. And i would never discourage any girl from going full cleavage. But like everything else in life, variety is the spice that stops life from being boring. Don't always dress the same, mix things up. There are so many ways to look good. Stay true to your cleavages and your "accidental" downblouses, but know what else is out there.
Cleavage is and always will be the king of tit presentation. But don't forget about all the other ways to look good. Sideboob, for example, is a very sexy way to show off your tits. It requires a whole new set of moves and postures to really emphasize your sideboob. But that is the fun of being a girl, we can be creative in so many ways. With sideboobs, your arms play a super important role. While cleavage is mostly about angles, sideboob is in a big part about arm movement. Get creative, be inventive.
The Underboob is another example. It can sometimes be tricky to get the right tops to show good underboobs, but when you find those tops, you will really feel the difference. Underboob requires completely different angles to be enjoyed. And it is much easier to "accidentally" raise your top too high to show more underboob, your shoulders can work like an elevator.
Boobs are to be shown off, so find new ways every day. Don't just give Men the same angles every day. They will eventually get bored. Instead, keep them guessing and wondering what view you will offer them. Make them anticipate seeing you!
Feminism is defined in the Merriam-Webster dictionary as the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes and i have news for you: female rights surpassed male rights some time ago. We are in a time where girls are the privileged sex. Now i don’t believe this is good or that i even want all these rights, but as a simple fact of western civilization, girls have more rights than men. And in Equality vs Equity we looked at how we can only mean "equality of opportunity" or "equality before the law" and never ever "equity" or "equality of outcome".
So feminism is obsolete in the sense that equality is already here. Probably since 1948 when the UN Declaration of Human Rights was signed that stated “All are equal before the law and are entitled without any discrimination to equal protection of the law.” So from there on it was only a matter of fixing the laws to ensure this is true in the written laws as well. Which, admittedly, took some time, but since 1948 no one could really challenge the equal rights movement. And laws are often not perfect and there is value in arguing for better laws, but in the west, we do not have a systemic sexist system that denies girls’ basic rights.
So, do feminists stop spreading feminism and cry for more rights now? No, they don’t. They even go a step further and shut down any talk about male issues. They invented crazy ideas like “toxic masculinity” and started a real war on anything male. They make up issues like the number of girls vs the number of men in movies. They invent things like “man spreading” to criticize how men sit. “Boys will be boys” is now a toxic saying, because apparently it is not Ok for boys to be boys. Those are not issues of inequality. Those are not issues a movement that fights for “equal rights” would address. This is just a cry for attention, or maybe a cry for purpose in the absence of real problems.
So even if we take the textbook feminism definition of wanting equal rights, opportunities, etc. we have to admit feminism exceeded these things. Girls today have more opportunities and more rights than men (and it is not even proven that this is a good thing, this series actually is trying to show that this is inherently bad). Yet feminists go even so far as to shut down and boycott men’s rights activist groups. Misogyny as a word is throwing around a lot, mostly by girls wearing “the future is female” shirts and having “kill all men” on their social media profiles. This is not a culture of equality. Just substitute “men” with blacks and “female” with white. Would you be comfortable hearing these things then? If you are a decent human being, you would be appalled.
So does that mean feminism is more focused on the second part of the definition from Merriam-Webster: organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests Which would make it an inherent sexist movement. Every girl who has expressed anti-feminist views in public knows how much of a bully feminists are. So if we have to concede that feminism cannot be, by any stretch of the imagination, about equality, then it has to be about female superiority. It clearly tries to separate men from girls, to spark fights between us. This is a dangerous ideology, it promotes hate and suffering, and therefore i have to consider feminism to be harmful.
This one is more abstract and less impactful on daily lives. We just need to define what equality really is before we can look at how feminism tries to imbue "equality" on the world. So please bear with me for this long one.
Feminism advocates for equal rights and equal opportunities. But to understand what that means, we first have to determine what "equal" really means. There are 2 basic interpretations: a) equality of opportunity b) equity - equality of outcome
Here is a funny image that really makes sense and makes you think: yes, of course, we need equity. It's the only fair thing, right?
Well, with height it is easy. Everyone can see that the short guy needs more crates than the tall guy. Also, crates are pretty easy to come by, since we already have all crates that we need here.
Now, in reality, it is much more difficult. If you look at 2 of your colleagues, how equal are they? How much did their height impact their current position in life? How much their parents? How much their parents' wealth? Did they have a bad relationship in their youth that impacted their life? Did their friends impact the college they attended? How did that impact their grades? etc. There are just so many questions on what defines a person's position in life. We cannot really define how they came to this point, it was a long series of events and decisions. Which decisions and which events did matter more? It's impossible to tell how to weight them. Also, we have trouble defining their point in life. Do they have a romantic partner? Pets? Hobbies? Are two people equal in "life success"? Maybe one has a better job but the other a more loving spouse? Maybe this person has a healthy pet that makes them super happy and the other one has a sick pet that troubles them very much.
That means no 2 people are the same and they will never have the same life. There will always be differences and we also cannot really say if someone is "more happy" than someone else. That means it often gets reduced to simple things we can quantify, like for example this person's salary, the size of their home, the number of people they had sex with, or the number of pimples they had in school pictures.
We often just look at 2 random people and say, this one is earning more money than this one, so the system is rigged. This is a dangerous thing to say, because the only solution to really have equity like this is if everyone earns the same money. That means, no matter what you do, no matter what you studied, no matter how much effort you put into it, no matter how competent you are, you will always get the same money as everyone else.
This is a dangerous system because it kills ambition. But even if everyone gets the same wage no matter what, we wouldn't have reached equity. Because still, more girls would be hairdressers than oil drillers. So we had to forcefully move girls to offshore oil drilling platforms and move the oil drillers into hairdresser saloons. But do we have reached equity now? Actually still not, because we have only split for gender and not for race, culture, amount of parents, amount of siblings, hair color, political views, etc.
As it turns out, people are individuals and we shouldn't treat them according to their group identities. What we need to do is giving people the same opportunities. Everyone can become president, even if most countries didn't have a girl president yet, we do had girls in leadership positions (for the better and the worse).
So equality of opportunity is what we usually mean by "equality" because the whole idea of "equality of outcome" is just horrible and dangerous. Equality does not mean everyone will reach the same position in life, it just means that the option is there in theory. Of course, real-life happens and tragedy happens. And sometimes we have to be content with building for the future and enabling our children a better starting position than we had. This is also part of the equality argument: if we can't become president because we are lacking resources, friends, drive, or whatever. Maybe we can set our kids up to have those things. If you need to go upstairs to get a job but you are a disabled person that has to sit in a wheelchair, you don't have the same opportunity as a non-disabled person. This is what we need to tackle. A girl will always have the same opportunities a Man does as long as there are no special laws in place to stop her. But also this does mean that i may have to put more effort into things.
i really struggled in school with English for some quiet time. i had the same opportunity to write an A on a test as every other kid. But some had to put more effort into getting a C than others had to get an A. This is equality. i had the opportunity to write As, i just wasn't good enough. How sad would life be if i had gotten only straight As in English without having to work for it? Would i have turned it around later in life and invested time and effort to now be a somewhat decent blogger in English?
So when looking at feminists advocating for equity over equality, i just have to consider feminism to be harmful.
While girls get more and more protection and rights, this goes hand in hand with a decline in relative happiness. There is an interesting study called "The Paradox of Declining of Female Happiness". Which analyzed that girls are less happy now (compared to Men) than they were in the 1970s. So even with added rights, freedoms, and responsibilities, girls don't get happier. Interestingly enough the invention of contraception was the biggest increase in female happiness ever measured. Which kinda makes sense, planning for a family is always better than accidentally falling into one.
The number one thing anyone should care about is not whether something is supposed to be good but rather if it is good. Having more freedom looks nice on paper, but what is it really worth if it comes with less happiness and an increase in suicide rates. While Men still account for the vast majority of suicides, girls are rising fast. Girls have usually low "success" rates in suicide (meaning they survive it more often) but are catching up to Men in lethality. Especially in the teen years girl suicides are skyrocketing.
So if we are looking objectively at feminism and if it is good or harmful to girls, we have to accept the fact that feminism does not increase the quality of life for girls. The usual feminist response seems to push for more power, more rights, more protection, etc. yet the data shows that more of those things don't lead to happier lives. And with especially teen girls rising suicide rates (so feminism is literally killing girls), this is also not just a problem of one generation but rather something serious that is getting worse over time.
i personally think that the most important thing in life is being happy. Everything else is just an afterthought. And while i do believe there are happy feminists, studies have shown that traditional gender roles lead to happier couples. In all studies about happiness over time, feminism is way down there with the worst of things. Also most self-help-books and psychiatrists would agree, happiness can not be found when looking at other people and telling them how to live their life. The key to happiness is found within yourself. With quiet and calm Zen. By focusing on the good parts, enjoying the simple pleasures, and giving joy to the world. And none of those things can be found within feminism.
Sometimes we do have to fight, but those things are inherently bad. We just have to work through them, overcome them. Sometimes it is a necessary evil we have to submit ourselves to. But feminism is not just about one particular thing, it is a way of living. It is the warrior's way of finding enemies even where there are none. So even if feminism would be morally the right thing to do (and i disagree with this statement) then it should still be questioned because it obviously harms girls. It makes our lives miserable. There just are no more important goals in life than to find happiness. And since feminism is detrimental to happiness, i have to consider feminism to be harmful.
This is the start of a series i call “Feminism considered harmful” which will focus on certain aspects of feminism and why i consider it to be harmful to people. It will look at actual feminism and some science stats behind it. Feminism long evolved from “wanting people to be equal”, so this does not cover 1st or 2nd wave feminism or the ideals behind it, but rather the actual thing we have today and the real-life impact it has on our society. i will try to back up as many of my claims as i can with actual science and research by professionals.
Feminism is an ideology, or how i like to call it: a religion. And when looking at these things, we can’t look too deep into the theory and ideals of it. We have to look at the practical implications. Like communist ideals aren’t that bad on paper: create a state with shared ownership where everyone has what he needs. No classes, wealth, or other factors dividing us, and everyone is equal. That sounds pretty sweet. But in reality, it didn’t turn out that good (and that’s an understatement). So noble ideas alone don’t save anyone. It’s the practical implications that matter.
And this is what we are going to look at in this series. Not what feminism is saying (and feminists do often disagree on what feminism actually is) but rather what feminism is doing. That means, even though i have read the classics like the second sex, the bell jar, the feminine mystique, and the woman warrior, we are not going to discuss them. Instead, we will look at society and how feminist actions have shaped and changed it. And then we will see if feminism had a net positive or net negative impact on the world.
In this series, i will argue why there is a net negative impact and that is why we have to consider feminism to be harmful.
Don't ever try to be subtle with Men. They are not good at understanding subtle hints. Flirting is best done very bold. Men want it, they need it, spelled out. If you like a Sir, you better tell him as straight and direct as possible and well, as feminine as possible to his face.
When flirting, don't just tell him he as nice biceps, he will think you just liked his biceps. Instead, show him what you want. We girls are often too reserved and wait for the Man to make the first move. This is perfectly natural and fine, but it doesn't mean you have to sit pretty and wait. Go on the offensive.
Show your cleavage, upskirt him, bend over - be as forward as you dare, but also as passively feminine as is required. It is his role to ask you out (or get rejected), you don't have to set yourself up for this kind of drama. Also never deny a Man his chase. If he just gets you without any work, that is no fun. So give him his due chase when he asks you out but always show him that his goal (you) is within grasp.
So try asking him for his help, make eye contact, offer yourself to him. Make it as clear as you can because he will not pick up on it easily. So don't be dismayed if he ignores you at first, he very likely didn't understand your advances. Men don't get offers from girls like that. The Men in the picture might even think she wants him off the couch so she can stretch out and relax. Men are amazing geniuses when it comes to solving problems, but with social cues they are useless.
So don't be subtle girls. And if a Man ignores you, just come back with more force. Unless he clearly states "No", he is fair game. But also remember that Men like submissive girls that do as they are told. Sometimes this can be the best way to catch a Man's attention, by being exceptionally obedient.
In today's society, we are really starving for good role models. So here is another hero of mine: C.J. Miles. She started with nothing in the Philippines and now she has a killer body and travels all over the world. This is what female success looks like!
And when talking about success, how gorgeous are her tits? That was a seriously talented doctor who made them. As much as i love C.J. i just love her tits more. They are maybe even the prettiest tits on earth.
Her special features are her tits (obviously) and her wide leg spread in many of her photos. Also she is one of the smallest girls in the business standing at about 140cm, so even in heels, she is smaller than me! This makes her wear ridicolous High Heels and that is always a plus in my book. And also her tiny frame makes her tits pop even more.
She always pushes how far she can go on those "SFW" websites like Instagram. Sadly she doesn't really do porn, she does have an OnlyFans however. But i really feel it's a crime against society to not do porn with a body like hers.
One of my favorite quotes of her is "god blesses me with beautiful features then doctor came up he photoshopped it more!". No matter how sexy or ugly you think you are. There can always be a doctor "photoshopping" you up, girls! That's advice for life.