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Correction, Discipline, Punishment

Most people call it punishment but i do think "correction" fits this much better. It is not really about "making a girl pay for her action" but more about improving her and making her realize her mistakes.

Corrections are supposed to be painful. They should hurt. And yes, even make the girl cry sometimes. Depending on the transgression of course. The "punishment" needs to fit the crime.

But what it really is about his correction and improvement. The Sir doesn't like to punish his girl, to hurt her, and to make her scream. Of course, there are sadists/masochists that do this as play - but play and correction are very different. A correction should never be enjoyed by the Sir. It should be just but not fun.

A correction helps the girl realize her mistakes. It makes her remember the mistakes she made and also makes her sorry for doing them. Saying "i am sorry" is very easy but feeling sorry can only be guaranteed by some just discipline. Even though many girls feel remorse at breaking rules or making mistakes on their own, without even a Sir reminding them of their transgression, you should never forgo a correction like.

Because corrections serve another purpose: making a clean slate again. We girls tend to overthink and usually have a million things on our minds. And making a mistake, breaking a rule, upsetting our Sir, etc. that just weighs very heavy on our conscience.

A correction fixes this by giving us a clean slate again. With repentance, we pay off our moral debt. After the correction, after we took the punishment, we are good girls again. That is also why it is very important for the Sir to never bring this incident up again. The girl paid her dues, she is a good girl again. That is why there can't be hidden hatred or ill thoughts because each mistake is dealt with. Of course, if a girl repeats the same mistakes the Sir can order harsher punishments to incentivize her to not do it again. But by making this clear what is good and what is bad behavior, everyone wins. The girl knows exactly what is allowed and what is not - and girls work best in fixed structures. And the Sir doesn't have to hide his disappointment in the girl, he can actively work on making her better.

In the end, everyone gets what they need: girls get structures and don't have to overthink too much because every mistake is atoned for. And the Man gets an obedient girl that behaves exactly the way he enjoys.

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Quote #3 - Zsa Zsa Gabor

This is a small quote series to honor Zsa Zsa Gabor. One of the pop culture Queens of the 20th century. The press even titled her "the most successful courtesan of the 20th century" and if that is not something to look up to, i don't know what is. She also starred in lots of movies, most noteworthy Moulin Rouge, which is one of the best movies ever made.

She also knew lots about Men since she was married 8 times. So she definitely knew how to get a Man, only with keeping him she wasn't as successful. We should learn from her wisdom as there aren't that many good role models available in our generation.

The best way to attract a man is to have a magnificent bosom and a half-size brain and let both of them show.

Husbands are like fires - they go out when unattended.

One of my theories is: men love with their eyes; women love with their ears.

What is really important for a woman, you know, even more than being beautiful or intelligent, is to be entertaining.

The only place men want depth in a woman is in her decolletage.

Being jealous of a beautiful woman is not going to make you more beautiful.

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Men stand and girls kneel

There is just a fundamental difference between our genders. Even though girls can stand strong and Men can kneel docile, it never really feels right for either.

It is basic biology when we think about it. Men are hunters, predators. They take charge, they "go for it". It doesn't always work out and no Man is faultless. But it is in their nature to try and shoot for the moon.

With us girls it is different. We don't like risks. We play it safe and rather follow a well laid out path than make split-second decisions. Overthinking is a big problem for girls.

So when both genders come together, we can support and complement each other. Men take charge but the simple fact that they are now responsible for a fragile girl makes them more risk-aware. Men have no problem risking their own lives, but risking their loved ones? That is what makes them be extra careful. And girls don't like uncharted territories where anything could happen, but if there is a safety net in the form of a Man taking care of us, we can dare to jump into the unknown.

Men thrive when they can take charge and lead. They flourish when they are making impactful decisions. Girls prosper when they can take care of things and nurture them to make them grow and go beyond. They can help Men grow and blossom, while Men have the ability to take girls out of their shells and still keep them safe.

Men benefit from having a girl to take care and girls benefit from leadership. It is a match made in heaven. We just have to be bold enough to admit it: Men stand and girls kneel. None is superior to the other, it is just 2 different sides of a coin. You cannot have a leader without a follower and you cannot follow without a leader.

That means we need to work together.
Dear Man, stand tall and take charge.
Dear girls, kneel docile and follow.

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First Times

For a long time, i didn't understand what Men find hot about this. A girl licking a toilet or other non-sexual but icky things. But nowadays i know that it isn't about sex, it is about dignity. A normal person wouldn't lick the toilet, but a dirty whore would. That means by licking the toilet the girl admits to being a dirty whore. She shows that she has no boundaries, that she will do anything for him. Often it does not even matter what it is she does, as long as she does it because he wants it (and would never do it without him demanding it). And the more repulsive the action is, the more turned on the Man gets.

By debasing ourselves, by lowering ourselves to toilet licking whores, we can attract male attention. Every girl can look pretty in a dress, it is not that difficult. And while it is also not technically difficult to lick a toilet, most girls get stopped by their pride and dignity. Only by being able to overcome those burdens, we can show Men that we are worth their time. We can show them that we don't act inside the normal morals, that we are not like all the other girls, we are better, more fun. Of course, toilet licking is here just an example, not every Man will be into this particular action, but what they are into is into pushing the boundaries of what is considered "normal".

In that sense, it is kind of a test. A test if we are ready to submit or if our pride and dignity have ruined us. When it comes to sex Men have a very dirty and creative mind. There will always be new things that they invent. Just look at the porn industry. One would assume that by now every kind of porn has already been shot but yet the industry is booming with more and more videos coming out each day. Men don't want to let their sex life get stale, they need new things. So while it might have been enough to show some ankle 150 years ago, today Men need more. They need dirty sluts. They need us to throw away the "morals" of society and go the extra mile. Where it once has been showing some ankle, then maybe some knee and now we are in a time where clean-shaven pubic hair and anal sex is expected.

It won't stop. It will keep going. Men will need more and more, we can't just sit back and relax on the basis that we once licked a toilet. No, Men need more and need it repeated. You cannot do things for the first time twice. Once you degraded yourself in a certain way, you can repeat it but you can never make happen for the first time again. With each repeat, it will get easier and more normal. That is why morals shift - there will always be people on the edge of what is "normal" and push the boundaries a little further. And after a while, it is not seen as weird anymore and a new normal gets created.

So keep in mind that with every degrading action, with every defiance of your pride and with every renouncing of your dignity, you shift what's normal a little bit further. And every first you give your Man just ingrains you in his brain. A Man will not remember the 10th blowjob he got, but he sure as hell still knows everything about the first time he came into a girl's mouth.

Do your research and check the porn sites for new stuff. Look at what is trending, those are the videos Men are watching. Watching something is the first step. After they have seen plenty of it, they will want to experience it. So prepare by watching the same videos and get used to the ideas in porn. Over time even the most degrading actions can appear normal to us, use this to your advantage and always be one step ahead :)

Of course, this does not mean that this is all Men want. Men want a variety of things, they are quite complex beings. But porn, sex, and degradation go hand in hand. Every Man is influenced by them to some extent. Some more and some less. But it never hurts to dismantle any pride you might feel. Pride never helped anyone, it is poisonous. With dignity it is the same. No girl ever got her prince charming because she was the most dignified. No Man ever had an orgasm from respecting a girl.

I had this epiphany a while ago while watching one of my favorite movies: Mini's First Time. It is a movie about how things are only really fun the first time you do them. And once they are done, there is no way of undoing them and each repeat is just an echo of the first time.

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Silence is Golden

One thing Men really don't need (especially after a long workday) is a waterfall of words when they come home. This does not mean Men don't care about us, but they are not as communicative as we are. They need their quiet and rest to recharge their energy.

Also one of the main reasons why a man wants a divorce is a nagging wife. Nagging can be really harmful (even to your Man's health) and sadly, nagging happens automatically when we just word vomit whatever comes to our minds. We tend to talk for the sake of talking because we want to communicate with our Man and we want to include him in our life. The problem, however, is that Men can't differentiate between what is important to us and what is just word salad. Men tend to focus on problems and want to provide us with solutions, so whenever we bring up problems to them they feel the need to solve them. That can put a lot of stress on them (especially when they are listening to us instead of recharging their batteries). So even if we don't mean to nag them, we often do so by accident. 

It is important to reduce our communication (while on the other hand, it is important for Men to increase theirs) so we can meet each other somewhere in the middle. This is where gags can come in handy. It is easy to restrain yourself from talking when you have a gag in your mouth. It makes us think about what to say and prioritize the information we wanna give our Man. As a special hint to Men: gags can also be super useful during movies or sport watching if your girl has the tendency to talk over the TV.

Don't cheap out on gags though. It is important to get a comfortable one. First, you have to get the size right. You probably have to try a few different ones, but i prefer ball gags with a slightly smaller ball. Don't go too cheap on the straps however, they need to be easy on the skin too. A full muzzle can be super useful and comfortable too, but the act of putting it on and off can be a bit of a nuisance.

Now comes the most difficult part. Dear Sirs, i know that when your girl is gagged you feel super relaxed and you could let this go on forever. But it is really important that you give your girl her talky time. She needs to vent, she needs to talk nonsense and most importantly, she needs you to care about her life.

So gag her when you need your quiet when you need to rest some, when you need to get some energy back or when you just need some me-time. This is perfectly fine. She doesn't need to talk 24/7, even if she wants to. But keep the clock in mind. Your girl needs her talky time as well. You can limit it and move it to when it suits you best, but you cannot get rid off it. This would only lead to an unhappy girl. But keep in mind that when her talking gets to much, you can gag her again. Just be fair about it and be sure to give her the attention she needs.

Please make sure she doesn't see it as punishment but as an important part of your relationship: quiet time. With young kids "quiet time" is an important thing in their education. And never forget that girls are like young children, so it is often wise to use tips for kids' education when dealing with us.

i really believe that gags can increase the happiness of any couple. Like most things in a relationship, it is best when the Man is in charge and sets the right priorities. He has to handle it fair though. Remember that you are the boss, you decide. But your decisions have consequences and your job is to keep the relationship flourishing. So take what you need but give what you can :)

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Sex Matters

No matter what you do or become in life, first and foremost, be a good fuck. It is a very good thing to have aspirations in life, it is important to have goals and dreams, but the basis to achieve all this is, simply put, to be a good fuck.

Men get into relationships to get sex and we girls give sex to get relationships. This is of course very much simplified, but at its core, this is our dynamic in a relationship. Men don't crave the emotional bond we do. They are willing to give us what we need when they get what they need. Relationships are symbioses. So every girl knows that in a relationship letting the Man fuck her is her duty. Men want it way more often than we do. On the other hand, we do want to go out dancing and dining and even cuddling in bed much more often than they want to. So it is a give and take.

But it is just not enough to let your Man fuck you. This is the basis, this is the first step. To really shine in a relationship you gotta be a good fuck, not just any old fuck. Kinda like we remember the romantic gestures, the special presents, and the compliments Men give us, Men remember the girls that were good fucks.

Beauty is what sparks a Man's interest. And manners, obedience, and submission are what keeps them from running away. Remember a nagging, pushy girl just scares off Men left and right. But what really makes Men stay is being a good fuck. Being a goddess in bed, being a nasty dirty whore for them.

Luckily Men are simple beings and they gave us an instruction manual on what we need to do: Porn. Porn is simple male fantasy, without any feminists or social justice worker influence. Pure fantasy. Pure male dreams. So go on pornhub, xhamster, xvideos or whatever you like and watch. Watch the "hottest", "most viewed" or "popular" categories. See what Men like. Study the girls. Watch what they wear, what they say, how they moan. Be like those girls. Act like them. Turn into them.

There are so many things, so many fetishes, so many sex positions, and whatnot, you will definitely find things you are into. Sex can be fun for us girls too, the most important thing is to be free and do whatever you (or your Sir) want. If you give him amazing sex, he will keep you forever. i promise.

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Sex vs Relationship

For Men sex and relationship are two very different things while we girls can’t usually have one without the other. For us, it is very difficult to separate them.

This has many reasons, one of them are hormones. During sex, our body produces a lot of hormones to make us feel good. Everyone knows the high from a good orgasm. But there are differences between Men and girls. For example, the male body produces dopamine while the female body produces oxytocin. Oxytocin is called the “cuddle hormone” because it makes us cuddly and is also one of the key aspects of mother-baby-bonding. It makes us love, cuddle and want to nurture. That means sex is very personal for a girl. Dopamine, on the other hand, is a pure pleasure hormone. It can even lead to addictions because it solely focuses on the “feel good” center of the brain. It just makes “high”, like a drug.

Both feelings, the cuddly oxytocin and the high of dopamine are very positive things. Both are very nice to experience and that is why we like sex. But if we look closer, it is easy to see how relationships are a more important part of sex for girls. While Men can go around fucking everything they can get their hands, girls need intimacy.

This means when a Man cheats, we can’t be too mad at him. For him it was not a case of being unfaithful, he just had some fun. Kind of like he goes out with his buddies drinking and watching the game. He had fun but he will come back to you because fun and sex are very different things to him than the relationship he has with you.

There is this saying “a Man is basically as faithful as his options” and it is very true. We girls get offered sex regularly. It is how the world works: Men offer sex and it is our decision if we wanna accept it. Dick is free but pussy costs money. So from high school on we always have Men in our life that offer sex to us. So it is very easy for us to turn it down. For once, we are very practiced in it and also we know we can get more Men to offer tomorrow.

When a Man gets offered sex it is very hard for him to turn it down. First of all, there is no emotional bond he needs to have, he can fuck a hot girl even though she was just a huge bitch to him. As long as her tits are nice, he will be game. For us girls, this wouldn’t work. If someone hurts us emotionally we are not gonna fuck him. No matter how hot. And for Men, this also means: after the sex is done, it is over. They don’t want to stay, talk and cuddle. They want to get out and get a beer with their buddies and maybe do it again tomorrow night. Preferably without any talking - because emotions and intimacy are very different from sex for them.

Men need variety. It is in their biology to spread their seed around. Even though we have come far as a society, lots of ancient behaviors are still ingrained in our bodies. We girls want a powerful Man who can provide for us and protect us. That is the kind of guy we wanna give children to. Men, on the other hand, want to spread themselves around. And while i don’t think it is a good idea for a Man to have lots of kids with different girls, the urge to fuck around is deep inside them. Can we really fault them for it?

Especially since the male sex drive is much more pronounced than the female one. Men have a greater desire to fuck, and they don’t need as much preparation as we do. Men just get horny. There are a million things that can turn on a Man, in contrast to girls who often need to be in the right mood first, before any turning on can even happen. And once a Man is horny he can go straight for the sex. No need to play around, no need for foreplay - just straight to the orgasm. What it comes down to is, Men, want more sex than their significant other. So even if the girl gives in more often than she would want to, the Man still doesn’t get sex as often as he wants.

So we shouldn’t use the same scale for Men and girls when it comes to sex. Men shouldn’t be shamed for having sex. It should be only called cheating if they also get involved emotionally. Because that is the bond they have with their significant other.

Men and girls see relationship and sex from a very different perspective. It is very wrong to apply the same rules to both. We need to accept and embrace the differences. That is the only way to form strong and lasting relationships. So when it comes to sex, it is important to give Men some leeway. They don’t seek to replace their girl with another one, they are just trying to complement their lives. Kinda in the same way we girls do when we seek emotional support among friends. This is something a Man would never do. He would never share his intimate fears with a one night stand. Because of this emotional part, this intimacy is part of his relationship. He wouldn’t take it elsewhere.

This is also the reason why Men get jealous when girls talk about intimate details of their life with their male friends. From a male standpoint, this is cheating, because he himself would never do that. It would feel like he betrayed his significant other if he did.

We need to understand these differences and cut Men some slack when it comes to sex with other people and at the same time accept that girls will seek emotional support with other people. If we truly understand these differences we can incorporate them in our lives. And maybe the girl can help find fuck buddies for her Man and the Man can help his girl socialize more. Because those are the needs we have that often cannot be filled by a single person. That does not mean we don’t value our significant other, but sometimes we need more than they can give.

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