Tag: #equality

Feminism is defined in the Merriam-Webster dictionary as
the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
and i have news for you: female rights surpassed male rights some time ago. We are in a time where girls are the privileged sex. Now i don’t believe this is good or that i even want all these rights, but as a simple fact of western civilization, girls have more rights than men. And in Equality vs Equity we looked at how we can only mean "equality of opportunity" or "equality before the law" and never ever "equity" or "equality of outcome".

So feminism is obsolete in the sense that equality is already here. Probably since 1948 when the UN Declaration of Human Rights was signed that stated “All are equal before the law and are entitled without any discrimination to equal protection of the law.” So from there on it was only a matter of fixing the laws to ensure this is true in the written laws as well. Which, admittedly, took some time, but since 1948 no one could really challenge the equal rights movement. And laws are often not perfect and there is value in arguing for better laws, but in the west, we do not have a systemic sexist system that denies girls’ basic rights. 

So, do feminists stop spreading feminism and cry for more rights now? No, they don’t. They even go a step further and shut down any talk about male issues. They invented crazy ideas like “toxic masculinity” and started a real war on anything male. They make up issues like the number of girls vs the number of men in movies. They invent things like “man spreading” to criticize how men sit. “Boys will be boys” is now a toxic saying, because apparently it is not Ok for boys to be boys. Those are not issues of inequality. Those are not issues a movement that fights for “equal rights” would address. This is just a cry for attention, or maybe a cry for purpose in the absence of real problems.

This can easily be proven by the number of feminists you see protesting courts to treat fathers equal to mothers. You can see this by the number of feminists protesting the higher sentences men get compared to girls. The number is Zero. There are many male problems, things like domestic violence (where statistics actually say girls hitting men more often and lesbian couples have the highest rates of domestic violence) where men get actively banned from shelters when facing abuse, higher suicide rates, men are more often the target of crimes and murder, higher workplace accidents, higher male death rates during wars, the problem of girls raping men being funny and never taken seriously or even the simple fact that girls have full control over their reproduction system but a man has no say in getting or keeping a child (he is legally bound to the decision the girl makes and does not get to voice his opinion). There are many many more male focused issues that feminists are not only not defending but actually making worse on purpose. Like for example, the single mom pandemic that is hurting generations of kids. 

So even if we take the textbook feminism definition of wanting equal rights, opportunities, etc. we have to admit feminism exceeded these things. Girls today have more opportunities and more rights than men (and it is not even proven that this is a good thing, this series actually is trying to show that this is inherently bad). Yet feminists go even so far as to shut down and boycott men’s rights activist groups. Misogyny as a word is throwing around a lot, mostly by girls wearing “the future is female” shirts and having “kill all men” on their social media profiles. This is not a culture of equality. Just substitute “men” with blacks and “female” with white. Would you be comfortable hearing these things then? If you are a decent human being, you would be appalled. 

So does that mean feminism is more focused on the second part of the definition from Merriam-Webster:
organized activity on behalf of women’s rights and interests
Which would make it an inherent sexist movement. Every girl who has expressed anti-feminist views in public knows how much of a bully feminists are. So if we have to concede that feminism cannot be, by any stretch of the imagination, about equality, then it has to be about female superiority. It clearly tries to separate men from girls, to spark fights between us. This is a dangerous ideology, it promotes hate and suffering, and therefore i have to consider feminism to be harmful.

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This one is more abstract and less impactful on daily lives. We just need to define what equality really is before we can look at how feminism tries to imbue "equality" on the world. So please bear with me for this long one. 

Feminism advocates for equal rights and equal opportunities. But to understand what that means, we first have to determine what "equal" really means. There are 2 basic interpretations:
a) equality of opportunity
b) equity - equality of outcome 

Here is a funny image that really makes sense and makes you think: yes, of course, we need equity. It's the only fair thing, right? 

Well, with height it is easy. Everyone can see that the short guy needs more crates than the tall guy. Also, crates are pretty easy to come by, since we already have all crates that we need here. 

Now, in reality, it is much more difficult. If you look at 2 of your colleagues, how equal are they? How much did their height impact their current position in life? How much their parents? How much their parents' wealth? Did they have a bad relationship in their youth that impacted their life? Did their friends impact the college they attended? How did that impact their grades? etc. There are just so many questions on what defines a person's position in life. We cannot really define how they came to this point, it was a long series of events and decisions. Which decisions and which events did matter more? It's impossible to tell how to weight them. Also, we have trouble defining their point in life. Do they have a romantic partner? Pets? Hobbies? Are two people equal in "life success"? Maybe one has a better job but the other a more loving spouse? Maybe this person has a healthy pet that makes them super happy and the other one has a sick pet that troubles them very much. 

That means no 2 people are the same and they will never have the same life. There will always be differences and we also cannot really say if someone is "more happy" than someone else. That means it often gets reduced to simple things we can quantify, like for example this person's salary, the size of their home, the number of people they had sex with, or the number of pimples they had in school pictures. 

We often just look at 2 random people and say, this one is earning more money than this one, so the system is rigged. This is a dangerous thing to say, because the only solution to really have equity like this is if everyone earns the same money. That means, no matter what you do, no matter what you studied, no matter how much effort you put into it, no matter how competent you are, you will always get the same money as everyone else. 

This is a dangerous system because it kills ambition. But even if everyone gets the same wage no matter what, we wouldn't have reached equity. Because still, more girls would be hairdressers than oil drillers. So we had to forcefully move girls to offshore oil drilling platforms and move the oil drillers into hairdresser saloons. But do we have reached equity now? Actually still not, because we have only split for gender and not for race, culture, amount of parents, amount of siblings, hair color, political views, etc. 

As it turns out, people are individuals and we shouldn't treat them according to their group identities. What we need to do is giving people the same opportunities. Everyone can become president, even if most countries didn't have a girl president yet, we do had girls in leadership positions (for the better and the worse). 

So equality of opportunity is what we usually mean by "equality" because the whole idea of "equality of outcome" is just horrible and dangerous. Equality does not mean everyone will reach the same position in life, it just means that the option is there in theory. Of course, real-life happens and tragedy happens. And sometimes we have to be content with building for the future and enabling our children a better starting position than we had. This is also part of the equality argument: if we can't become president because we are lacking resources, friends, drive, or whatever. Maybe we can set our kids up to have those things. If you need to go upstairs to get a job but you are a disabled person that has to sit in a wheelchair, you don't have the same opportunity as a non-disabled person. This is what we need to tackle. A girl will always have the same opportunities a Man does as long as there are no special laws in place to stop her. But also this does mean that i may have to put more effort into things. 

i really struggled in school with English for some quiet time. i had the same opportunity to write an A on a test as every other kid. But some had to put more effort into getting a C than others had to get an A. This is equality. i had the opportunity to write As, i just wasn't good enough. How sad would life be if i had gotten only straight As in English without having to work for it? Would i have turned it around later in life and invested time and effort to now be a somewhat decent blogger in English? 

So when looking at feminists advocating for equity over equality, i just have to consider feminism to be harmful. 

Months after writing this piece, Bill Maher had a funny bit on Real Time With Bill Maher about this exact topic: New Rule: Equality of Outcomes.

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